If you find yourself afraid of your partner or have a friend who is, perhaps, it is time to figure out if you are in an abusive relationship and get help. Being in this type of relationship can be extremely dangerous and the violence only tends to escalate overtime. There are many ways to help your loved one or friend. By getting in touch with a therapy center that specializes in interventions you can get assistance with planning an intervention. This intervention will aid in finding ways to confront your loved one and help them admit they are in an abusive relationship and help them find a way to leave the relationship. Here are some things to consider when trying to determine if a relationship is abusive.
Signs to look out for
The most obvious sign of being in an abusive relationship is a partner who is physically abusive. However, there are many more subtle ways to be abusive. A person who always blames others for their mistakes and cannot accept blame for their actions tends to be abusive. Watch out for a partner who is overly jealous or possessive and tries to isolate someone from friends and family. These feelings and actions are a result of low self-esteem, and can cause a person to lash out due to feelings of inadequacy. A person may attempt to control you through emotional abuse, such as name calling and insults. This form of abuse is an attempt to break you down, and make you feel worthless so you won’t leave them. Pay attention to how your partner treats other people, especially their family members. If they don’t have any respect for other people, especially ones they are supposed to care about, you can be pretty sure they won’t treat you with respect either. Some other traits of an abusive relationship include:
- Feeling as though you are constantly walking on eggs shells around your partner
- They constantly have to have their own way and will sulk, coax, threaten, or resort to any other means to get their way
- Pressure or try to guilt you into doing things you are not ready for or don’t want to do
- Constantly trying to change you into someone you’re not
- Arguments that lasts for hours or days and progressively become more verbally abusive or degrading
- Active alcohol or drug addiction
- Sulking or flying into a rage over seemingly small things
If your partner exhibits one of these traits, or a few from time to time, chances are you are probably not in an abusive relationship. However, if these behaviors become commonplace it is time to find a way to break free from your partner. Remember that anyone in a relationship can be abused; men are abused, as well as women. If you find yourself in this situation, get help from a trusted friend, family member, therapist or the police. Never attempt to leave an abusive partner without help and someone with you when you leave your partner. If you have nowhere to go, look into going to a shelter for victims of abuse, or possibly even an intervention. You can always call us for help.